Video Transcript: I never point to my ear. Here's why.
COBI: Hello! I'm Cobi Sewell. Not too long ago I was joking around with a good family friend. At one point, she stopped me and said, "I can't hear? No, I do not hear." That comment got stuck in my head and made me think. I feel that it's worth sharing with the Deaf community, so here I am. You know, oftentimes, I see that most of my deaf friends, when interacting with hearing people, their first reaction is, "I can't hear." You know, that typical thing deaf people do.
As for me, when I approach hearing people, I refuse to point to my ear. Instead, I go ahead and use gestures, write on a notepad, or use my phone. Get to it, ya know. Make the point. When you point to your ear, and state the issue there, you automatically demoralize yourself. To not hear is not even an issue until you mention "can't". "Can't" is another term for barrier. You just do not hear. That is not an issue. There is a big difference between can't and do not. All issues you have with hearing people, are based on how you introduce yourself. By using "I can't hear", you create an issue. You demoted yourself with the word "can't".
Alternatively, you can just get on with it. Let them know "You do not hear" and continue just as anyone would. You know, all the situations... We are looking at one same situation, one same tree. It's a matter of perspective and where you stand. You can be under the dark shade of this tree, or move to other side where the sunlight is. Something for you to think about. Can't hear or do not hear? Much love.